COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS NOT YOUR TROUBLES
—NEVER COMPLAIN, ALWAYS THANK—
“Men do not die of overwork. They die of dissipation and worry.”
The most effective people are those who can deal with any kind of problem without being affected by it, as it is said that true personality of a person can be seen the way he deals in a problematic situation. There are very few people I have met who can work stress-free with a shining smile on their faces. It is just about forming a habit of thinking good and productive thoughts in your mind than sleeping over worry.
I remember a few days back I was talking to my cousin late night, the very next morning when we spoke he said, “Guess what? the very first thought in my mind was really weird today.” After making few guesses I asked, “What was that?” he said, “It’s about the promotion I couldn’t reach we were discussing last night.” Instantly I said, it is true what you think at night before you sleep keeps spinning in your brain and sometimes you end up keeping the garbage inside you. However, most people, as I can see, form the same habit, it is said to read good books, think uplifting thoughts or meditate before sleeping but the irony is that most people do the opposite.
Why it is like we concentrate more on the things not working than those working fine, and it is proved through research too as most business and spiritual leaders say that bad thoughts sap your energy, therefore, always think something good before you go to bed at night and once you wake up each morning. For e.g. Mahatma Gandhi used to read Bhagwat Gita every morning, he would wake up at 4 am and get charged for the whole day work. Same with Nelson Mandela, he would wake up at 4 am in the morning, take a walk, enjoy the beauty of nature and plan his day.
The biggest lesson I learned from my past experiences is that if you have all the fresh water you want to drink and all the food you want to eat, you ought never to complain about anything. When everything is working fine in our life we still have a problem, we are annoyed if we don’t like the food made at home but we never focus on what we already have, there are others who could hardly manage to have one time meal, who want to read but they don’t have eyes, who wish to have a life like us. About ninety percent of the things in our lives are right and about ten percent are wrong. If we want to be happy, all we have to do is to concentrate on the ninety percent that are right and ignore the ten percent that are wrong. If we want to be worried and bitter and curse our luck, all we have to do is to concentrate on the ten percent that are wrong and ignore the ninety percent that are glorious. Well, that’s what most people do.
“When I was 5 years old, my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life. When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down ‘happy’. They told me I didn’t understand the assignment, and I told them they didn’t understand life.” – John Lennon
As long as we are alive, there will be unforeseen troubles in life, therefore there is no escape from difficulties. Moreover, it is about our choice to choose trouble or a peace of mind. People think they are so touchy, sensitive and in doing so they easily succumb to form a fractious personality (one who easily gets annoyed.) But there is a solution to everything, if you form right habits and stick to them then nothing is going to hurt you, it’s all up to you. Although there are many lessons but one can start with these simple steps:
a.) Read inspiring books or at least quotes before you sleep and when you wake up.
b.) Always speak well and talk good about everyone, avoid the negative vocabulary. “Use what language you will,” Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “you can never say anything but what you are.” Talk good about other people, even on their back, and avoid negative chatter.
c.) Believe in yourself. If you are going for an interview or some important work then believe that you will do it and if you don’t get that job then also it will be okay, because life is too short to cry over spilled milk.
d.) Have the courage to take your stand and stick to your convictions. People easily change their way and give up when they face imminent hurdles.
e.) Remember it is not people it’s time which is right or wrong. And the way we manage our time is totally in our hands, take charge of your life…NOW. Never let your life be run by others, what you think about yourself is more important.
“Never be bothered by what people say, as long as you know in your heart you are right.” – Teddy Roosevelt
BE LIKE A KINDER JOY KID
All I urge you to be like a Kinder Joy Kid, one who is excited and happy to find the gift than the yummy chocolate inside. Life is like that, we never know what next hour or day is going to bring to us, whatever it is we should always welcome and accept it as it is without being worried. I would like to share with you the words of wisdom shared by a college Principal in a seminar, “People who are excited in life reach the top of the mountain.”
Hence always be eagerly excited to welcome life, and be happy with what life brings to you each day. If you do this often it will become your habit, thereafter your personality. Happiness comes to those who appreciate what they have and welcome life with arms wide open.